Personal Birthing Experience


Because I have no children of my own, I decided to write about the birth I most anticipated, the birth of my niece Penny. I was working toward my bachelor’s degree and about to leave for class when I got the phone call that my sister-in-law was heading to the hospital. As a college student I couldn’t afford a cell phone so I headed to class not knowing what was happening. At the break, I explained to my professor that I couldn’t wait any longer and I left for the hospital.

I arrived at the hospital still in the dark about what was happening. I asked for my sister-in-law’s room number and went right there. As I opened the door, I saw my sister-in-law standing up with my brother supporting her. She said, “Go!” and I found the waiting room where my sister, mother and father as well as her sister were waiting. They told me she had been in labor for a while and was having a hard time. Soon my brother poked his head in and explained that his wife didn’t want anyone with her yet. We then waited about two more hours before he finally came back in to tell us that she had given birth to a healthy baby girl. We waited more then made our way to the nursery to see our little girl. My sister-in-law was trying to get some rest, so we left.

The following day I got a phone call that my sister-in-law was to be released from the hospital but Penny had been moved to the neo-natal ward of another hospital. Apparently Penny had inherited her mother’s skin disorder which does not allow her skin to sweat and when they put her under the heat lamps it dried out her skin so much that the skin on her neck cracked open. Because of the open wound, she had to be moved to the neo-natal unit for a few days. Having to wait to bring her home was hard on everyone, especially her parents who were the only visitors allowed to see her in the hospital. But the days went by and soon she was able to come home.

While researching childbirth delivery in other countries, I learned that most expectant moms in the Netherlands are referred to a midwife by their family doctor. The women then choose whether they want to give birth at home or in a hospital. All expectant women are required to pick up medical supplies necessary for a home birth just in case. If a woman chooses a hospital birth, the midwife will determine when it’s time to go to the hospital. Even at the hospital, epidurals are only given if it’s convenient for the anesthesiologist or if an obstetrician deems it necessary.

If a baby is born in the hospital early in the day and there are no complications, both mother and baby may go home in about two hours. Then the home care begins with nurses visiting the home for seven days to provide medical care, cleaning, cooking, and basic parenting skills.

This is very different from what I experienced with my sister-in-law first because of the option of home or hospital delivery, the possibility of a two hour hospital stay, the lack of epidural, and then the home care lasting for a week.